HOW WE MET
We met at a bar in New York City. We knew a lot of the same people, but had never actually met yet. Pat asked one of my best friends from high school to introduce us that night, even though I had secretly spotted him at a charity event a few weeks before. It was not until a week or two later that we exchanged numbers. It was Valentine’s Day… on a Tuesday, so what else do you do as a 22 year old then? Go to your local bar for a few drinks. After a few beers, he walked me to a taxi and we exchanged numbers. It still took a few months until we were officially dating, but the rest is history.
'I think marriage represents a sense of foundation and strength and unity. It’s the foundation on which we will build our family.'
OUR ENGAGEMENT STORY
Amsterdam has become a special place for both of us. What’s not to love? It’s my hometown and a place where I’ve brought Pat to many times. It was a long weekend and the start of summer in 2017 and I flew over to Holland on a Wednesday. Pat (due to work) flew one day later saying he was taking the late flight, so he would get in to Schiphol around noon. At this point, I was already in Amsterdam, but little did I know that Pat had landed at 6am. My dad picked him up from the airport and brought him to my parents house in the suburbs of Amsterdam. They had brunch together with my mom and he asked them for my hand. My mom then drove him into Amsterdam making up lies like “customs are really fast today.” He showed up at the apartment, and I had no clue.
We then biked around Amsterdam and happened to bike past the The Dylan Hotel where Pat said “Let’s get a drink there later, you always talk about that hotel.” I fell for it and a few hours later, we were sitting in the courtyard of the hotel, drinking a fancy cocktail. We sat there enjoying our surroundings for 40 minutes before we were supposed to head to a barbecue at a friend’s house. Out of the blue, Pat said he had planned a boat ride for an hour with the hotel when he was “bored at work.” I thought it was weird, but it was a beautiful day and if it was only an hour, we’d still be on time to the barbecue.
We walked into the lobby where there was a captain waiting. He led us across the street to a beautiful salon boat on the canal, which we had to ourselves. Pat was getting nervous especially since he had anxiously flown across the ocean with the ring and was checking at least every hour to make sure the ring was still in the front pocket of his backpack. Pat then told me to stand up so we could take a picture, and as I turned around he was down on one knee asking in Dutch (he’s American and his Dutch is a work in progress)“Wil je met me trouwen?” and I said “JA!”
'Don't sweat the small stuff.. really don't. You are the only one who knows what it's 'supposed' to look like.'
MARRIAGE TO US MEANS
I think marriage represents a sense of foundation and strength and unity. It’s the foundation on which we will build our family. Our marriage was the start of that. It feels like a great strength to have someone in the world that will be on your team no matter what. Wins and losses, we will fight for it all together.
A MEMORABLE MOMENT OF THE DAY
Too many! But one of my favourite moments was getting on the boats after our ceremony. It was filled with our family and our wedding party. I loved being able to take a breath and relax after the ceremony and before the reception.
“Throughout the day, make sure you pick moments to step back and look around. This is likely the only day in your lives that all the people you care about are together in one place, celebrating YOU.”
ONE THING WE WISH WE KNEW BEFORE WE STARTED OUR WEDDING PLANS
Don’t sweat the small stuff… really don’t. You are the only one who knows what it’s “supposed to” look like.
'I had seen Lotte’s Instagram and actually contacted her the weekend we got engaged.'
IF I COULD GIVE OTHER BRIDES TO BE ONE PIECE OF ADVICE
I received great advice before the wedding. “Throughout the day, make sure you pick moments to step back and look around. This is likely the only day in your lives that all the people you care about are together in one place, celebrating YOU.” We did this, and I am thankful we did.
GETTING MARRIED WITH THE HELP OF LOTTE MEANS TO US
Everything. Since there is an ocean between our home, New York, and the wedding location, Amsterdam, it was so important for us to have someone we trust on the ground. I had seen Lotte’s Instagram and actually contacted her the weekend we got engaged. Yes it was slightly eager, but we are not in Holland that often and it was important for us to meet the person who was going to help us plan our day in person. She understood our vision quickly and helped us narrow down options and make decisions. We had 180 people come over from the US. We were so flattered by the response of people who wanted to be there with us on our day. However, this also meant that if people were making the effort to make the trip, we wanted to make sure they truly got a good feel for Amsterdam. Lotte ensured that this happened. She was patient, pleasant, and no ask was too much. There were many logistics on the day of and everything went smoothly due to her meticulous planning. I wouldn’t change a thing!